Sugar Craving, Seriously Imbalanced Schedule, & Delegation/Team Productivity Transformed: One simple, customized process; multi-layered results
One leader came to Bridgenosis® with these problems: a sugar and junk food craving/addiction, a seriously imbalanced work schedule, and a few subordinates not pulling their weight while the others did all the work.
We found a link between them. The craving occurred when she was working and worsened with the number of work hours. She could not commit to anything in her personal life, at any time of day or day of the week, including Sunday morning. The food provided her with some of the personal pleasure she was missing.
We discovered that, like many of us, as a kid, she was rewarded with dessert for doing things that she did not want to do, such as eating all her peas at dinner. No one can seriously criticize this approach or deny that she was taught a valuable lesson, which contributed greatly to her professionally successful life.
However, during the session, we learned that her subconscious translated this too literally by associating being rewarded with only doing things she did not like and with a fear that she would not be rewarded if she refrained from unwanted activities. Therefore, subconsciously, she believed she needed to attract situations she did not like in order to be rewarded.
Like the rest of us, one of her life goals was to be rewarded from being valuable and helpful to others, so she set out to do just that. Although she actually enjoyed the majority of the substance of her work, she subconsciously believed she had to turn it into a nightmare by accepting too much work to justify any rewards. She handled the nightmare by dropping fun personal plans at every opportunity.
The positive association with being rewarded (usually with money) was canceled out by the negative situations she was creating. Because the only other reward she could fit into her crazy schedule aside from money was dessert or junk food, she craved it and consumed it often. One part of her wanted personal happiness. The other part wanted to achieve goals. The self-limiting belief was to think that she must choose one over the other-this was an illusion.
She also believed she was only valuable when working, achieving or helping someone. This led her to value these activities over personal time and self-care. If she wasn’t proving her value, she was feeling unworthy, which created stress. Therefore, saying no to opportunities to prove her value in order to make time for her personal life felt stressful. Ironically, by taking on too much, she was less efficient and productive. Her value went down when she wasn’t focused where her intuition said to focus.
We built a thought bridge between her conscious desires and her creative subconscious drivers and habits. Believing her intuition or internal compass is her greatest asset and that her worthiness is intrinsic and doesn’t need to be proved now was key. Additionally, this part of her knows exactly how best to create value and when to focus on the personal life versus work and that she was meant to have both, when to say yes and when to say no. She can also trust her inner-voice to know when, who and how to delegate.
The common goal of her imbalanced work schedule and her sugar/junk food craving was to be rewarded with the good things in life… to seek her joy. We asked both parts to work together so that she could reach this positive goal. This meant agreeing to 1) make time for personal fun and enjoy sweets in moderation; and 2) make time for work that she substantively enjoyed.
Both parts of her understood that she would still have to drop plans from time to time and work under fast, unpredictable deadlines (which she had mastered) because of the nature of her work, but that this could be an exception, as opposed to the rule. As a result, she became even more efficient and effective because she was happy and honoring both parts, recognizing the conflict was an illusion.
During the hypnotherapy part of the session, she retrained her subconscious mind to make the shifts mentioned earlier and to believe that the old view that she could only be rewarded by doing something she did not want to do was false. It had served its purpose of teaching her how to handle difficult situations and schedules and was outdated. We asked her subconscious mind to replace this outdated rule with a new goal of helping her to achieve a balanced and truly rewarding life.
She reported back immediately that her cravings were gone, and she was regularly leaving work at a reasonable hour without taking any work home. She also began making and keeping personal commitments. Later in the year, she received a raise and bonus. She comfortably drew boundaries at work without fear of losing her rewards because she understood that she was even more valuable when she was trusting her internal compass instead of going overboard, and those boundaries were respected. Her confidence was contagious. She also attracted more balanced behavior from her team (and in one case a new employee when the slacker one moved on to another job). She was able to delegate more, so the entire team was more productive and had more balanced lives.
This is one of many examples where a client was able to achieve multiple goals in one or two Bridgenosis® sessions. Productivity and efficiency increased despite working less.